“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
― William W. Purkey
This was 1st introduced to me in this hilarious Korean drama series “我叫金三顺” (My Name is Kim Sam Soon), where a patisserie chef is ditched cruelly by her playboy boyfriend. This was something that inspired her to not be afraid to let new love in.
In some sense, she’s a dreamer like me. I still believe in love & commitment. I am getting happier, when I hear about weddings, babies these days. But when the question came to whether or not I would give love another go, a silent but definite shudder runs up my spine. Lol… Guess I still need time eh…
In the crux of it, Purkey puts it so well:
Love like you’ll never be hurt.
Impossible really. Cos the fact is that along with all the sweet, loving & passionate vibes, comes the expectations, the significance of the other, and the all-familiar dance of negotiation between 2 completely different souls.
Zero expectations I realise is not entirely healthy. Managed expectations is the way to go. Cos without expectations, the relationship becomes boring & lop-sided. With one party always giving, the other receiving. Unhealthy. It needs to be a 2-way thing, managed & not coerced.
Yet, the expectations will need to be based on values, instead of expressions. Ie. The fact that we love each other is expressed according to the frequency & methodology we individually deemed fit for the other. Yet, it has to be balanced with consideration of the other party.
I guess, I know I can commit to the “dance” again & give my bestest shot @ making things work, but am afraid of the bad aftermath, should things not work out. That is a risk, I guess, any of us will need to take, in not just love, but anything that involves another human being.
So… jouney is @ a stage of overcoming the fear of the unknown. Found my prayer being: just straightforward, Lord. Live, love & serve You. No more complex processing. Straight-up & move forward. That’s all I ask.
Enough of extended conversations. Think have enough thinking through to last for awhile eh? 😀